Over the past few months, Ireland went into lockdown to slow the spread of Covid 19. Most of my work (as a trainer sharing NVC) was canceled, and what wasn't canceled was moved to Zoom (like everyone else!). I gave myself permission to let go of notions of "productivity" and instead I spent time with myself.
The first month was an unwinding of the anxiety of the busy pace I'd been living since last December, though it was replaced with anxiety about the pandemic, let's be honest. I experienced a reorientiation to what is important to me, and faced some existential questions:
What am I doing with my one glorious life?
Why have I been spending my precious, limited time and energy on things that are not going to bring me the life I dream of?
In the terrifying face of global climate change and biodiversity loss and this internal ticking clock counting down the remaining time we have for collective action, spurring a sense of urgency within me, I have carried the question:
What is my work to do?
What is my contribution to new/old world we so desperately need?
What arose in me, as the weeks passed, was a clarity of purpose. The answer that consistantly came to me was community living. My dream has long been to live in community. I originally came to NVC to support my marriage, and I stayed with NVC, worked towards certification, and committed to the hard work of integrating nonviolence into my life for the rest of my life, because I thought this was the only visible step towards living in community I could grasp.
So, my next question to myself was:
If I am so clear I want to live in community, and so clear I want to bring my delivery of NVC in service to community living, why am I not doing it?
That was a much more painful question to face. Several responses within me arose, my struggle with general disempowerment, lack of hope, intense grief over the state of the world, and a deep refusal to do it "alone". Facing this pain became the next bit of work of my time in lockdown.
I have since experienced a shift. I realize that I don't need to do this alone. I can ask for support. More than that, I can create a team of people to work together.
My dream is to form a team of 4-5 people, local to Ireland, who would like to work with me to support forming and established live-in communities in building nonviolence and NVC into the foundation of their social structures and way of life.
You do not need to be experienced in the above, as we will learn and grow together. What I am looking for is:
Skills I'm looking for:
If this sounds like you, and you are interested in getting involved, I aim to hold a zoom call to answer any questions and support you in deciding to join this group or not. Email me to receive information about when this zoom call will be.
Selene Aswell is a coach, facilitator and community living consultant.